Arrangements for the funeral of Clare Ineson
Tuesday 20th December 2016, 12.30pm
Redditch Crematorium
Family and friends are gathering for a service to remember Clare at Redditch Crematorium at 12.30pm.
Clare would appreciate everyone attending the service for her, but then she would want everyone to carry on and get on with life. There is therefore no wake after the funeral but please do go ahead and meet in your individual friendship groups to remember Clare in your own way.
Clare’s family welcome any tributes, words of remembrance and stories about her so do feel free to leave any messages at the bottom of this webpage.
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Clare was a much loved lady, and Nigel and his family want her funeral to be a personal reflection of her, and for everyone to feel very connected with her. This is why Nigel has chosen a a beautiful cotton shroud for her instead of a coffin.
As it is something many people have not experienced before, he wanted to let you know in advance so that you know what to expect. We have included a picture of a shroud below for you; Clare herself will not be on view, and you will simply get a sense of her shape through the thick cotton shroud.
Our experience of shroud funerals are that they have helped to make the farewells more personal; and strange as it sounds, really quite beautiful.
I will miss you and your sunny smile.
Dear Clare,
So patient, so caring, so lovely – it just won’t be the same without you. I’m so glad I had the privilege to know you. Rest in Peace.
We miss you Clare and struggle to understand the past few years and months. I am sorry we were unaware of the deep pain you felt and failed to be there in the way you needed. I am sad that you lost your faith in Jesus, so evident for most of your life and I pray that you know God fully now. I will remember with great thanks the times we spend on the Lee Abbey Camp field as well as our family holidays. You are sadly missed and greatly loved. I want to finish this inadequate tribute with a prayer.
Eternal God and Father, look in mercy and compassion on those who remember Clare before you. Let not the pain of her death cloud the good memories of her life. For Clare the trials of this life are over and death is past. Accept from us, all that we feel even when words fail; deliver us from despair and give us the strength to meet the days to come. We pray this especially for her children, family and close friends. And we ask these things in the name and faith of Jesus Christ our risen Lord. Amen
God bless you Clare.
Clare had not lost her faith is jesus, she had lost her trust in in the church. We often spoke about her faith and her beliefs despite what had been and continued to be done to her by those supposedly living as Christians.
Clare, you were a close friend at university and brought so much warmth and fun (and two pet rats) to our shared flat. You were sometimes troubled, but nearly always laughing. We teased you about how many of the students around us fell in love with you, but we could all see why. Glad that you found such strong love before you left us all. Glad that you had time to be the brilliant mum you were always cut out to be.
So glad we stayed in touch, wish it had been more. But reliving all the good memories and trying to remember that you are at peace now. Goodbye Clare, rest in peace.
I don’t believe Clare lost her faith in God I believe she lost her faith in the church x
Dear Clare
I will so miss seeing you around and about at school. I will always treasure the time we worked together. Forever in our hearts
Goodnight and God Bless.
Jane x
Our friendship started with teaching many years ago. They were challenging times and we often spent hours discussing the best way forward, always supportive, a shoulder to cry on. Even though we moved schools Clare was often someone I would enjoy discussing the latest teaching ideas with and she was so passionate about making a difference for the children she taught. Our friendship extended to the pregnancies we went through together and she organised the best hen night! There was always a lot of laughter, some shared tears, but mostly a lot of love: for her children and especially for Nigel. I was so lucky to have known you Clare, sleep well, Karen xxx
I always do think that God takes the loveliest people early, and Clare has proven this too. Off to spread your wings in a beautiful place free of worry and doubt, and in peace.
What wonderful memories you leave with all who you leave behind, of a funny, loving, caring sensitive person who attracted people to her in droves. A beautiful soul.
We are lucky to have known you even for such a short time. If only we had spent more time together.
Rest in peace
My dear old friend. You were my inspiration and companion for so much of life. Thank you for your realness, warmth and strength. Thank you for cheering me on as I became a mother. I still think of you on the hard days and tell myself the words you told me. Thank you for taking me to that soggy camp field where we shared tears and joy and knew His love in a new way. I have missed you so much over these years and always hoped that one day our friendship would be rekindled. I’m sorry I didn’t try harder. I will always care for your precious three who bear your likeness in so many ways. I love you and know I will see you again.
My beautiful Clare. your body has left us but you remain in our hearts and our memories are as clear today as they day we lived them. Those you cared for and knew you best knew your heart and the faith you had. We know you had not lost faith. Now rest in peace, rest your soul, rest your mind, wipe away the tears, the nightmares are gone, nobody cant hurt you anymore. Those you loved and cared for are still with you and you in us. My Clare, Our Clare, I will see you soon and until then lead me to do the right thing as you always did so brilliantly. my love for you is as strong today as it has always been and alays will be. i cannot wait to hold you again, it cannot come soon enough, i miss you so much xxxxxx
mum, it’s been five years and still words can not express how much we all miss you, i am so dearly hoping that you are sleeping peacefully. You deserved nothing but pure happiness. I pray people remember you by the good times rather than the ones in which we struggled. My love for you is never ending and i pray you continue to guide me in the right direction of life as you always did.